01 Jul If you’re drawn to someone who advertises with lots of acronyms and euphemisms for sex acts (DFK, MSOG, DATY

Keep it classy. Google it if you must, but you might be happier not knowing), that person might not mind you referring to those terms in your correspondence or phone conversation. But the idea that using the word “Greek” instead of “anal” provides you or them with some sort of plausible deniability in terms of the law is, well, incredibly stupid. If someone lists a “menu” on their site of what they offer, cool; you already know the different makes and models of sex that will be available to you. If they don't say anything explicit on their site, they probably won't reply to an email that mentions your life-long love of taint-licking.

Your sex worker isn't there because of their lust for you, or even their like for you

Putting graphic descriptions in an email or voicemail is not smart or necessary. Your provider already knows you want some degree of sexual contact during your appointment even if they don't say so in their ad. There's no reason to crash around like a horny bull in a china shop by stating the obvious as crudely as you can. (Or even as suavely as you can. Sorry, but dudes have a way of making things sound super gross when they try to use their “sensual” persona, like talking about “oral pleasure” or “extremely responsive nipples” or some other pretentious nonsense.) Does your desired one post pictures of themselves in suggestive poses or revealing clothing? Do they talk about loving to meet new people and being known for their open-mindedness? Do they charge by the hour? If yes, you're both on the same page. If you're frustrated by the state of affairs that keeps you and another adult from communicating clearly about what your time together will entail, I'd suggest donating energy and money towards decriminalization efforts. Nothing good can come from trying to force a conversation that makes the other party uncomfortable or unsafe.